I thought that I would drop a quick line to emphasize the power of positive thinking. this is one thing that I often debate with some clients. Many people believe that life is hard, people are out to get them and that they are damned if they do, so why bother? I challenge them to think instead: life is manageable, it's none of my business what others think of me and what's the harm in trying?
I have clients laugh at me regularly, mainly because they think that I'm some pie-in-the-sky counselor who has never seen a hardship in her perfect life. They believe that life is hard and that they are only seeing it for what it is worth - shitty! I've been there, I get it.
The one reason why I have such a great success rate is because I get it! I am not a counselor who is only book trained and doesn't know what it's like to struggle. I was a rage-aholic until my mid-twenties, I've been divorced, I've had financial hardships in the past, broken relationships, and the 'everyone is out to get me' thinking pattern was my bestfriend back in the day! I get it! I get that it's easy to feel sorry for ourselves and look at all of the crappy stuff going on in our lives. I get that it's easier to blame everyone around us then it is trying to fix relationships or look ourselves in the mirror. I get it!
What these people don't get is that it can all get easier just by changing our thinking patterns! Stop the negative thinking and start thinking positive. It won't be an easy change in the beginning but I swear it works! Start wondering why people do things, instead of judging their behaviours. Start labeling people's behaviours in stead of them as a person. Start catching the negative thoughts and changing them into positive thoughts.
I promise that if you try this and really work at it that within one month your life will seem easier, brighter, and happier. I know it worked for me!
I am the founder of The Anger Managers, a clinic that provides court-approved psycho-educational courses and workshops to individuals and corporations